As a Life Coach and i am fortunate that my clients trust me
with their deep personal stories. There are times they feel sheepish when
sharing their vulnerability and I had one of them saying, “is it only me who is
going through all of this?” the one thing that I told her was, “look you are
unique and not special.” What this really means is my friend, that you are not
alone. Yes, we all are human beings having an experience on this amazing planet
and are made of the same pixie dust isn’t it? Then what makes us even think
that other humans are devoid of feeling the same shit as ours. What makes us
bash ourselves for feeling this and that. Yes, all the emotions are a paradigm
of human existence, we all feel angry, sad, happy, joyous, amazing, wonderful,
irritable, frustrated and yes, fearful. Then what makes us sit up and ask “why
me?”
What I have realized is that vulnerability has little place
in society. What it does to our collective psyche is create a feeling of
isolation and of being lonely. All the time, we wear masks of thousand shades,
and prance about hiding under layers and layers of what we truly want to
express. No wonder, when someone shares their intimate personal story that may
have been hiding for ages, there are many me too’s. What an amazing place it
would be if we could actually meet, see and hear each other truly.
I realized this when I was feeling particularly vulnerable
and confused with how I was feeling. And I did not have the courage to talk to
anyone for the fear of their judgments. However, I did talk about it, and
realized that I was not alone when they said “me too”. That I was not alone
gave me solace and comfort making me less critical of myself. As a human the
largest gift that we can give a fellow human is hold a safe space and our
presence. Aren’t we anyways walking each other home?
No doubt, we all have our own paths and our own way of
looking at our personal stories, and what lifts off the burden is the courage
to share it. You know it is also the stories that we tell ourselves that make
us and our lives and creates subconscious operating patterns for us. Some
stories serve us and some keeps us in a negative loop and a whirlpool
disallowing us to let go or forgive ourselves and/or others. What happens when
we expose the mental movies and own up is that we tend to create a shift within
us that allows for a perspective change, be more gentle with ourselves and know
that we are not alone. And you know another very powerful shift that occurs
sometimes is, that we change our stories and rewrite our experiences and
future.
I read somewhere and it fascinates me to no end. Are we the
creator of the stories OR is it that our stories are creating us?
